Saturday, November 14, 2009
There hath been an answer. All along.
In the same person is the he and the she. The one and its opposite. The mars and the venus. The question and the answer.
So, Erich Fromm, a few pages down from the quote I posted earlier, writes...
"Love is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone... man tries most actively to develop his total personality, so as to achieve a productive orientation; that satisfaction in individual love cannot be attained without the capacity to love one's neighbour, without true humility, courage, faith and discipline. In a culture in which these qualities are rare, the attainment of the capacity to love must remain a rare achievement".
How Islamic, I notice. I recall that the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has taught us to open up our channels of love to extend outside the sexual or the romantic, to things like a neighbor, a parent, a cat, a tree, an idea, a friend, a companion, a value, a faith, a song, a poem, a moment of happiness. And the list continues in order for us to develop our total personality. To achieve an all-encompassing orientation or vision about the sentiment of love and marriage.
Funny. Some responses I get tend to be so dry, like: "God is most important in marriage not the wife", or " God is first not him or her".
Why this is dry? Because some people's vision is simply disconnected. They can't see that to love God in a true sense is to go through the channels He has opened up for us here on earth -- the neighbor, the parent, the cat, the tree, the friend, the companion and so on.
Can't push this point enough. Because some people. Are. Just. Dis. connected.